Blame

admin — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 00:18:42 +0000

Lisa Nicholes

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to success

that most people face on a day-to-day basis is

a self-imposed one. Namely, blame.

Often in our rush to judgment and self-blame

we lose sight of ourselves. We’re so quick

to beat ourselves up when we make a mistake

or a wrong choice that we dig our hole a

little deeper, making it that much more

difficult to crawl out from.

Trust me, I know. I’ve been there. I used to

beat myself up all the time for my bad

choices. And the more of them I made, the

more I punished myself. Not only did it make

me feel worse, it just set me further back.

But I’ve learned an important tool to help

me overcome this tendency, and it can help

you, too.

I call it a pattern interrupt. You

consciously interrupt your old thoughts and

behaviors — the self-blame — with some

loving kindness for yourself. You remove

your boxing gloves before you inflict too

much damage.

That doesn’t mean that you don’t acknowledge

your mistakes and accept responsibility for

your choices. What it means is that you take

the gloves off and quit beating yourself up –

as soon as possible. You must commit to being

gentle and kind to yourself WHILE being

accountable and responsible for your choices.

It can be a delicate balance.

As you work with the Law of Attraction to

intentionally create the life you want,

you’re going to slingshot back to old

behaviors and old thought patterns. But the

difference between those who get stuck and

me, for instance, is that my gloves

instantly come off while theirs stay on for

a while.

Why inflict more pain?

Next time tell yourself, “Yes, that was a

bad move, that was a mistake. But you know

what? I still love you. You’re a good

person. You’re doing your best. Now it’s

time to deal with the consequences and

handle the situation.”

Be kind and gentle with yourself and you’ll

do just fine, because your heart — and your

head – is in the right place.

Did you have time to order Paul Scheele’s

“Genius Mind” DVD that I mentioned last

week? If not, please get it to help you

achieve your potential. That’s what the Law

of Attraction is all about.

I love Lisa. Ever since I was first introduced to her in The Secret….She is great, someone to inspire to become more like. i read this and loved it and wanted to share this with you. That is something in my life I have had to deal with blame getting thrown on me. I then made the choice to not to continue to take it. You do not have to carry someone else’s insecurities and take there harsh words and all the blame. You are worth more. Respect yourself and demand the respect of others. Tesa-